You Should Lock Up

My wife just sent me a text to lock up when I get home today.  I’ve been hanging free for weeks.  Truth is, I can’t wait.  After this long lull, things might be getting interesting.  

Having Fun

I have a few minutes, and felt like writing a quick post.  Things have been going well.  I’ve been under lock and key alot lately, and have been very happy about it.  I’ve been feeling obedient to J, which we both seem to enjoy.  I was allowed to orgasm inside J yesterday after 16 days of denial, mostly spent in my device.  She did allow some teasing here and there, but most of our sessions were about her pleasure.  I didn’t track, but I think she had something like 5 orgasms during those 16 days.  Not bad for J, as she’s not multi-orgasmic.  She is always very content after she has one nice orgasm, and I relish the time we spend basking in her afterglow.  I love to cum, but I’m at the point where her orgasms are more satisfying for me than my own, particularly on an emotional level.  It’s taken time, but I think J is finally starting to get that fact.  It’s taken many months for her to start getting that concept.  Maybe she thought I was just “saying” it.  Now that we’re living it, she might be believing it!

All of her climaxes were with my tongue.  She loves to cum on my mouth, and hasn’t wanted to use the vibe, or any other toys lately.  She’s been having some significant discomfort with penetration, so keeping her cock in the tube, has worked out well.  Besides, I’m a better submissive husband when I’m kept caged.  Until yesterday it had been about 2 weeks since she allowed me to slide into her pussy (and I wasn’t allowed to cum that time).  I’m finding I don’t really mind the reduced frequency of penetration.  Weird?  Maybe.  It seems to make it more special for us.   A rarer event to be savored.  And I think I’m also being permitted to cum inside her a little less frequently, too.  When I’m allowed to orgasm, I often seem to be doing it on her chest or stomach, with J using her hands to make her cock ejaculate.

I was allowed just the one orgasm yesterday, but she said I might be given another soon.  Even so, she has been simply amazing at keeping me guessing.  I love not knowing when, and for the most part, I usually don’t.  I do crave that follow up climax after two plus weeks of denial.  Not sure if it’ll be coming soon though.  She let me stay of out the rest of the day yesterday and last night.  Today, I locked up promptly after my shower.  I’m already feeling the sexual tension building, which is typical for me after a couple of weeks with only one cum.  No doubt, I’ll be pampering J tonight and eager to please her anyway she wants regardless if she lets me out or not.  

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A Good Conversation

My wife and I had a great day off together last week.  We enjoyed a beautiful sunny day and had some time to talk about our relationship.  One topic of conversation was our wife-led marriage.  We probably don’t have enough talks about where we are and where we want to go with our WLM.  We had one of those overdue conversations on that sparkling day.  Like many couples, life can get in the way of things and make it easy to fall back into old habits, so the talk was great in that we basically renewed our commitment to living a WLM/FLR.  I had read somewhere recently, though unfortunately can’t remember if it was a blog, Tumblr, or what...but a husband said something along the lines of “he was in the game as long as she (his wife) was”.  That struck me as very much how I feel about the WLM dynamic.  I explained my feelings in that same way to J, and she is still in the game, 100%.  So we came out of our couple’s day with renewed vigor for our WLM.  It was given a good test two days later, when a contentious topic came up.  As always, I gave J my honest opinion.  She disagreed, and that is putting it lightly!  I think she thought that I was not budging.  Later, I ended up reminding her, that it was for her to make the final decision.  Sometimes, she forgets the power she does possess.  Until that moment, she was pretty upset.  I didn’t think I needed to remind her so soon of her position...glad I did, as her mood improved when she realized we would do it her way.  LIke I said, some habits die hard!

We both want this, we just have to make a joint effort to nurture it.  So, as you might expect, I’ve been serving J with some added fervor, and really enjoying it.  She hasn’t been feeling well the past couple of days, so I’ve been serving her without any teasing and not much encouragement, but still feel very good about things.  It’s getting close to two weeks since my last orgasm, so that probably helps.  Speaking of orgasms, without much fanfare, J seems to be keeping me chaste for longer periods and having me stay in the device more often.  She is still great about letting me out for cleaning and if I’m having any issues.  I’m actually happy about this, as I do think I am more attentive to her when I’m in the tube and not having too many orgasms.  Maybe she is starting to see this, too ;)

A New Door Opens

August was a pretty quiet month.  Not much to write about, except one tidbit.  I have been looking inward at myself and determining where I am in a few places related to my relationship with my wife.  What I’m feeling, thinking and then conveying these honest thoughts and feelings to her.  The biggest outcome of this reflecting is that I’ve come to the realization that I am a cuckold.  I don’t mean that my wife has taken a lover or has slept with another man.  What I mean, is that she is free to do so if she ever wants to, and I would be fully supportive as her loving cuckold, and would remain fully committed and faithful to her.  My only requests would be that I be present and that we be very careful about safety, avoiding disease and pregnancy.  While J has long known about my cuckold/hotwife fantasies, I had never came to the conclusion that yes, she can have sex with other men if she desires and that I would be okay with it.  Now, that reality has been established and she knows it.  Our marriage and love is so strong that I have arrived at that point.  J now has my full permission and blessing to have sex with another man.  To be honest, I’m relieved.  I’ve had these thoughts for so long, it was time for me to decide where I was...fantasy only or would I want it to happen for real?  After some honest conversations, it is the latter.  I would like it to happen if she ever has the desire to make it so.  I have no interest in ever pushing this on her, or even trying to convince her to do it.  That’s not fair to J, and I won’t do it.  Only she can make that decision.  She now knows the door is open and all she has to do is walk thorough it.  If she does, I will do whatever is needed to make it happen with discretion, safety, and sanity in mind.  I’m a cuckold, not a fool, and have zero interest in sharing or encouraging her in a careless way.  Will it ever happen?  I don’t know.  If it does, I think it would be a few years down the road.  She would probably need to know I feel the same about it weeks and months from now as I do today.  Only time will tell, but I’m happy I’ve opened this door for her, and given her the power to make the decision. 

The Real Deal...or Not So Much?

I follow several blogs in addition to what is listed in my blog roll.  Virtually all of them are male chastity and/or female led relationship centric.  One thing I’ve been thinking about lately as I’ve been reading other blogs are the limits that the bloggers seem to have/struggle with in their relationships.  Sometimes the writer seems to be in the “same place” as their significant other.  Other times, the limits of what they are up for are a moving target or simply don’t jibe.  It doesn’t take a genius to figure out that every relationship is different.  What I’m becoming more curious about is the female led/wife led relationships.  Our marriage reads nothing like much of what I read on most FLR blogs. Even so, I’ve come to put the WLM label on my marriage to J.  But is it really?  What does that even mean?  Does it mean she can do whatever she wants?  I would say no, she cannot.  I give her plenty of argument on many topics, most often related to how we spend our money.  J tends to give in to me on these subjects, and I’m not sure I want that to change.  Does that disqualify us as a wife led couple?  Maybe.  Sometimes J will tell me I want her in charge of the bedroom and everything sexual, but not so much everywhere else.  Touché.  

Some female-led men want to be cuckolded, some do not.  Some have fantasies of being turned into a sissy or humiliated.  Others only want bits and pieces of the female led lifestyle.  Are those men really submissive?  That might include your's truly.  But if the woman is in charge, doesn’t that mean those are all her decisions to make, or at least to be the final authority on?  Sure, each couple sets their own rules...I get that, but let’s say the wife is very interested in taking a lover, and the husband is not.  What then?  If she decides to not take the lover...are they even truly in a female led relationship?  Okay, sure, perhaps her having a boyfriend is beyond his “hard limits”.  But now he is not allowing the so-called domme wife to do what she desires.  Is he really submissive to her in this case?  If it's a consensual power exchange, is the sub ever actually under control of the dominant spouse?  This is probably one of those posts that sort of goes in circles, but is something I’ve been thinking about lately.  How often is a female led relationship the real deal?  It seems that the answer is likely “not very often”.  Feel free to give me your two cents on the topic.  I know many of you are far wiser than this locked husband.